My sister and I decided to watch “While You Were Sleeping” the other day (which, by the way, is a great movie).* Anyway, I noticed how much the movie concentrated on Sandra Bullock’s character and all her little quirks. In fact, it focuses so much on her almost to the exclusion of her male counterpart. Well, that got me to thinking. If you listen to most popular music, you’ll hear lyrics about how special women are. Brad Paisley’s “She’s Everything” says, “She’s a yellow pair of running shoes, a holey pair of jeans. She looks great in cheap sunglasses, she looks great in anything. She’s I want a piece of chocolate, take me to a movie. She’s I can’t find a thing to wear. Now and then she’s moody.” Or then there’s the songs that focus on how special women are. Chuck Wicks’ “Stealing Cinderella” talks about how in her father’s eyes she’s Cinderella, and how he realizes she’s Cinderella. Or what about Kenny Chesney’s “You Had Me from Hello”? “One word, that’s all you said. Something in your voice caused me to turn my head. Your smile, just captured me. You were in my future as far as I could see. And I don’t know how it happens, but it happens still.” And what about movies like “Ever After?” “Ever After” focuses on the plight of a Cinderella character and her love of reading. And when it does focus on the prince, the movie brings out his flaws. And this trend didn’t just start. In fact, in the 1954 flick “Sabrina,” the title character is a young girl whom you fall in love with instantly. Her lover is a flawed man who needs her help (sound familiar?). And then there are all the books (same theme). Either they forget that men have quirks and personalities, or they point out all their flaws that the women need to help them with. I could go on and on, pointing out songs, books, movies, and tv shows to prove my point, but I don’t think that’s necessary.
I don’t have a problem with all these movies, books, etc. . . In fact, I love all the movies that I’ve mentioned. But I do think these movies can create selfish women. Why? Because they focus on how we’re always right, or how special we are. But our guys are just as special. It’s a really sweet concept to think that our husbands want to know every little thing about us, but do we know every little thing about them? Or do we just assume our husbands are like every other male out there? In God’s eyes our husbands are every bit as special as we are. And they are every bit as interesting as we are. That got me to thinking about making my own list of things make Brian special. I thought I would share a few things to help jumpstart your list.
- He works wonders with spices in the kitchen (in fact he’s better at coming up with his own recipes then I am).
- He thoroughly enjoys being in a dunk tank and teasing the kids when they miss him (he’s quite vocal).
- He has an insatiable appetite for learning.
- He’s always coming up with new inventions to make life easier.
- He knows how to teach kids; he can really relate to them, and he knows how to keep them entertained.
- He loves dressing up in costume to teach kids and they love it.
- He’s a huge fan of the TV shows “Get Smart” and “Hogan’s Heroes.”
- He never has enough time to read all the books that he wants to read.
- He has cute lines around his eyes when he smiles.
- And he always makes time for me.
Now it’s your turn! What makes your husband special? Don’t just end there, though. Make him feel special, and let him know how much you love, respect, and appreciate him.
*There is a bit of language in the movie, so if you don’t have something to block out curse words you might want to consider abstaining from this movie. Also, there is one small scene that mentions something inappropriate. The scene isn’t vital to the film, and can easily be skipped over.