I think almost everybody has heard about shmily. But in case you haven’t, an old couple used to write shmily all over the house. She would write it on the bathroom mirror for him; he would write it in the flour. For years this couple wrote that shmily, taking turns and surprising each other with it. When the old women dies, her husband puts the note shmily in her hands. Shmily stands for “See How Much I Love You!” I remember hearing this story and being touched by it. Actually, we both were. Brian and I have said from the beginning that we wanted to have the type of marriage that, as we grow old, people would still think of us as newlyweds. We want to be lifetime honeymooners. The shmily couple had that type of marriage. I wanted our marriage to be like that. That’s why we decided to come up with our own phrase. ILUMED! Or, “I love you more each day.” For us this is just a simple phrase that we can share with each other. I send him a text message, he writes it in an e-mail, I write it on a card, he writes it on a post-it-note, etc. It’s one small way we have of reminding each other how much we love each other. It’s a way of keeping our marriage alive and special.